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Rainagain

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Re: Total validation
« Reply #15 on: August 19, 2019, 01:39:40 AM »
Thank you all for your replies.

Its knocked me back I think, you try to come to terms with being wronged and they do more badness, hard to process.

Which is why my sleep has gotten worse I think, oh well.

I am trying to answer the question 'have they ruined my life' and I get the feeling they have.

That is the real evil, we have one brief life to lead and they have damaged mine, badly.

About all I have energy or interest in is fighting for my rights, there is still plenty I can do to challenge my ex employer, and I certainly will.

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Re: Total validation
« Reply #16 on: August 19, 2019, 05:55:57 PM »
 :thumbup:   Here to support you Rainagain. :grouphug:   

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Re: Total validation
« Reply #17 on: August 19, 2019, 11:12:57 PM »
Way to stay strong!  :thumbup:

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« Reply #18 on: August 21, 2019, 09:00:49 PM »
Go get 'em RA
Xo

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Rainagain

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Re: Total validation
« Reply #19 on: September 28, 2019, 12:31:52 AM »
Well,

The report wasn't diluted enough to matter it seems, just me over reacting I suppose. It happens to me sometimes.

I am apparently going to get a pension and also my injury claim will get settled. The report was just too powerful to deny.

I seem to have succeeded, or more accurately, this report, by someone who really listened, has won my battles for me.

After years of struggle I have won.

It hasn't sunk in yet, I cant seem to process it at all.

Now what? With an income on the way and no battle to obsess over what do I do now? Now I should draw a line under it all and move on I guess.

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Re: Total validation
« Reply #20 on: September 28, 2019, 01:15:27 AM »
 :applause:

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« Reply #21 on: September 28, 2019, 05:49:14 AM »
Congratulations Rainagain!
I have so much respect for what you have done in achieving this milestone success for you!
What a relief you must be feeling!
Also because you didn't give up and made it all the way to your own personal victory, I believe that you help to clear the pathway for so many other people, who are now or will be faced with similar circumstances in the future.
Everyone like you who wins these battles against 'the system', in my opinion,  sets a better precedent for those of us who may follow later.
And so I would also like to thank you for the difference you have made for me and everyone else!!

Bless you
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Re: Total validation
« Reply #22 on: September 28, 2019, 05:58:02 AM »
Hooray! A huge well done to you!  :cheer:

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« Reply #23 on: September 28, 2019, 03:12:47 PM »
:fireworks:

:phoot:      :cake:     :party:

Celebrating your win but also your tenacity and determination Rainagain.

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« Reply #24 on: September 28, 2019, 10:53:59 PM »
That's great news Rainagain. As for now what, I would say do the best you can to make the most out of the time you have left. :)

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« Reply #25 on: September 29, 2019, 09:07:20 AM »
Reading this thread has been quite an emotional roller coaster!

But what a wonderful, righteous outcome you have achieved.
Very, very happy for you  :applause:
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Re: Total validation
« Reply #26 on: September 29, 2019, 03:23:46 PM »
Ah, yes. Moving on. Easier said than done...it's not so much that moving is the problem, it's in finding the direction. May I suggest, just basking in your victory a while? Let it sink in. Relax from your protracted, exhausting battle to savor the peace, which may feel like emptiness until you give it a second look.

You were heard, and you've been vindicated. That might send me into shock! Well done, you. Well done.
 :cheer: :applause: :cheer: :applause: :cheer:

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Rainagain

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Re: Total validation
« Reply #27 on: October 05, 2019, 01:11:32 AM »
Thank you all so much.

3r- peace may feel like emptiness until you give it a second look.

Wow, that is going to take some consideration, very interesting idea.

I have safety now, which is peaceful, but also emptiness, or the suspicion of emptiness.

I think I will have to just go slow, I cant do busy or stress at all, the emptiness pf my life includes freedom from harm.

Is it possible to rebuild a life so it isnt empty but is also trauma free?

Careful choices are required I think.

It seems like a big risk somehow.

As to tenacity,  I am so stubborn that I rarely take a stand on things if I can avoid it because I can be very stubborn, like, unbelievably so. I was forced into this particular battle and feel it was so important to me that I was heard.

Anyway, hopefully it is over and I can be peaceful again.

Daviduk, thank you for your kind words, there have been attitude and policy changes as a result of  my struggles so maybe I will have improved things for others, it's a nice idea.

You are all so kind.

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Re: Total validation
« Reply #28 on: October 10, 2019, 12:31:18 AM »
Great news Rainagain!

I do agree with 3R's sentiment about peace. It will take time to adjust to this new phase in life... but adjust you will