DID telling others

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notalone

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DID telling others
« on: September 07, 2019, 01:32:46 AM »
For those of you with DID (dissociative identity disorder), have you told others; family, friends? If so, please share whatever you are comfortable telling about that experience. My T has brought up the possibility of telling my H and maybe even my children (in their 20's) about my DID. I also wonder about telling some close friends. If I decide to disclose, I would probably do it in a session. Looking for advice.

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Jazzy

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Re: DID telling others
« Reply #1 on: September 08, 2019, 12:09:48 AM »
Well, I haven't dared talk to my psychiatrist about it, so I don't have an official diagnosis... but I'm quite sure I live with DID. The only person I ever told was my at-the-time-wife. In my opinion, she was pretty dismissive of it, even though I clearly exhibit two different personalities with different names, behaviours, ways of speaking etc. People have made comments about how different I am sometimes, but that's as far as anyone has gone.

I wish I had something more positive to share, but I don't, so I can only say that I hope it goes better for you. As for advice, I would say to have someone who will back you up, because people tend to automatically minimize stuff like this. If you can do it with your T present, that would be great (not 100% sure if that's what you mean by "in a session").

I'd also say to give some real thought as to what it means to you to live with DID, how it effects you, and how you expect others to treat you. If they don't just refuse it, they will likely be confused and not sure how to deal with it/you.

All the best; take care! :)

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Tee

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« Reply #2 on: September 08, 2019, 02:47:08 PM »
I told my husband in session with the help of my T.  My kids are still young and I believe my D could tell the difference she didn't completely understand.

It did help my husband make sense of things.  He said it filled in hopes as to why I didn't remember things we had done together.  And thing like that.  I think it was helpful. 

I actually told my best friend before my husband.  She was very understanding and it was nice having a someone who really knew me.

Hugs good luck. :hug:

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notalone

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Re: DID telling others
« Reply #3 on: September 09, 2019, 08:12:59 PM »
Jazzy,
Thank you for your reply. Yes, by "session" I mean therapy.
I'd also say to give some real thought as to what it means to you to live with DID, how it effects you, and how you expect others to treat you. If they don't just refuse it, they will likely be confused and not sure how to deal with it/you.
Good things to think about. If I do tell friends or family, I would do it with my therapist, who has a very good, non-judgmental way of explaining things, so I don't think anyone would dismiss the DID, although that is always a possibility. I picture some asking how they can support me, so it would be good to be able to verbalize that as much as I am able. Jazzy, appreciate your thoughtful response.

Tee, thank you for sharing. I have one person (other than T) who knows about the DID. Yes, it is nice to have someone who really knows me.

Maybe something else to consider: the reasons for telling friends, H, and children vary. Lots to consider.


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Tee

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Re: DID telling others
« Reply #4 on: September 10, 2019, 11:27:10 AM »
 :hug: it's a lot to consider good luck.