Yesterday my sister texts each of my kids, asking them if there is anything they would like for Christmas?
Still no communication from my neice and she never cashed the cheque I sent which was a sign she did not want me to contact her.
But, OK for my sister to continue with the charade. She takes no interest in my children, no longer contacts me, except to tell me off as in the thread above but, come birthdays and Christmas acts as if everything is normal.
My OH suggested he texted her to say ask the children what they want through him but I am scared of her response to that, no matter how politely he puts it. Besides, our son is 16, an adult.
I have also been wondering if it is worth trying to ask my father the questions I wanted him to answer now that he is dying and won't suff r any repercussions from telling me. His excuse not to tell me before was that 'he wanted to remain on good terms with all family members' despite the fact that I felt angry and upset that no one would tell me what I wanted to know, which was why they would not attend my wedding, why they treated me the way they did. Honestly, they may not know why, it must have made sense at the time to them but has probably been buried in all kinds of myths and half truths to justify their behaviour.
Sometimes I read threads on here and OOTF about siblings and wonder if I am the problem, as they think. My behaviour towards them may seem as bizarre as their behaviour towards me.
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