am i financially supporting my child enough in Higher Education

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Pilgrim

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am i financially supporting my child enough in Higher Education
« on: November 06, 2019, 11:06:50 AM »
1 of my children said they weren't that well off doing their Further Education. Apart from the basic student loan, I cover all accommodation costs, utility bills, mobile phone, spotify, travel card, leaving 50 per week for food and anything else. I'm medically retired. Please be honest with me, is this too little? Based in Scotland. I'm falling apart and when i heard that have just disappeared down a black hole. I do the same for another child at uni - parity for both. i just feel why don't i just shuffle off this mortal coil and then they can have more money. Thanks.

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Not Alone

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Re: am i financially supporting my child enough in Higher Education
« Reply #1 on: November 06, 2019, 03:22:19 PM »
Pilgrim,
My husband and I contribute very little toward our children's higher education. They are mostly working and paying for it themselves. You asked if what you were doing was too little. It sounds like quite a bit to me.

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Re: am i financially supporting my child enough in Higher Education
« Reply #2 on: November 06, 2019, 04:10:24 PM »
Yes, I think you are providing more than enough. Your child is human, and young, and it's normal that they may not understand or see just how much you are already giving. As a young adult they have the option of finding their own income. Props to you for doing what you can for your kids! But please do not shuffle off your mortal coil.
« Last Edit: November 06, 2019, 06:07:43 PM by Three Roses »

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Re: am i financially supporting my child enough in Higher Education
« Reply #3 on: November 06, 2019, 04:47:26 PM »
Our son works part time and pays for most things himself as both as his father and I did when we went to university (so FWIW I too think you're doing a lot for both  :yes:).  And FWIW I think having their dad around is so much better than having to work or accumulating some debt to get their education.
« Last Edit: November 06, 2019, 04:49:32 PM by Kizzie »

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Pilgrim

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Re: am i financially supporting my child enough in Higher Education
« Reply #4 on: November 06, 2019, 05:52:08 PM »
thanks for the replies. Just in such a dark place at the moment.

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Kizzie

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Re: am i financially supporting my child enough in Higher Education
« Reply #5 on: November 06, 2019, 06:14:26 PM »
Here's some sunshine care :sunny:  - hope it lightens your day even if just a little.

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Re: am i financially supporting my child enough in Higher Education
« Reply #6 on: November 07, 2019, 02:30:13 PM »
Here's some  :sunny: :sunny: from me too and :umbrella: to ward off whatever you need to.

The support you give your children sounds quite adequate to me. More than adequate. My impression is that North Americans and Europeans (including the British) have differing views on funding their children through higher education. I did get financial help from my parents through both university degrees though much less in the second one. I wasn't well off either but I accepted that. The proverbial student isn't well off! When you get into full-time work after uni, you can change that usually.

How much support you give depends also on how much comfort you're sacrificing for them. It would be a bit backwards if you were scrimping and saving and behaving like the proverbial student so your children could party, buy a car and go on holidays instead of getting a summer job. Please don't shuffle off your mortal coil - I'm sure your children appreciate you more as a living person than any extra money you can give them.