It really is although I confess to a small iota of guilt which I chase away by reminding myself of my needs and those of my family. No matter how good we've (had to) become at managing her NPD, she is a master at diverting attention onto herself. One year it was a hunt for of all things a hard to find soda to take back to my B just before we were to take her to the airport to go home.
So it isn't just the BIG NPD behav's, it's the constant small things that just add up. It's stealth narcissism and sounds crazy when you try to explain why something like that would send your BP into the stratosphere. And with her here it also opens the door to other family to introduce their crises (which is inevitable at XMas) by phone/email which she then tries to drag us into . We just don't want to hear about any of that any more, nope, nope, nope.
Anyway, it's been a lovely holiday so far without all of that
