One Act of Kindness to Myself Today - Part 1

Blueberry · February 26, 2020, 06:54:20 PM

Based on an idea notalone gave me (thanks notalone!), I'm starting this thread for myself and anybody else who wants to join in. I figure there are probably more people on here than me who have difficulty doing themselves a kindness. An act of kindness to myself can be a very personal thing. What works for me might not work for others.
Anyway, I'll start:

1) I had the spontaneous idea to go to Ash Wednesday church service this evening, set the person I was talking to a definite limit - you can come or not, but I'm going - and I went and it did me good in a number of ways.

Blueberry · February 27, 2020, 10:36:27 AM

Sometimes to be strict is to be kind to myself.

Today I made sure I got up 45 minutes before my first student came (instead of 5 minutes before) so that I felt ready to teach. That way my day starts out better too.

Kizzie · February 27, 2020, 05:42:10 PM

I love the idea of this thread BB (tks too Notalone)!

Mine was to book an appointment with a T that knows about CPTSD (finally found one here!).

I should add that one act of kindness I've been doing for myself every day now for a week or two is not watching the news and it has made such a difference in how triggered/depressed/in despair I feel.

Not Alone · February 27, 2020, 11:15:35 PM

Blueberry, that makes sense. To get up early is taking stress off your shoulders.

Kizzie, glad you found a T who knows about cptsd. I hope it goes well.

Tonight I am going out to dinner with my daughter. My act of kindness will be to get what I want and enjoy it without guilt (that's the goal!).

Blueberry · February 28, 2020, 10:22:56 PM

Quote from: Kizzie on February 27, 2020, 05:42:10 PM
Mine was to book an appointment with a T that knows about CPTSD (finally found one here!).

I should add that one act of kindness I've been doing for myself every day now for a week or two is not watching the news and it has made such a difference in how triggered/depressed/in despair I feel.

on both counts!

Blueberry · February 28, 2020, 10:28:05 PM

I noticed today that it's not easy for me to define Kindness to Myself. Kindness towards others is easier. However, I finally went clothes shopping with a gift certificate I was given about 6 months ago and bought myself a hoodie. I had something way more mundane in mind but I saw these hoodies and I've been looking for a bigger one for quite a few years.

Not Alone · February 29, 2020, 01:00:54 AM

Enjoy your hoodie. I find certain clothes to be comforting, and a hoodie, especially a big one, is comfy.

Blueberry · February 29, 2020, 09:29:39 PM

an emotional Kindness to Myself: Accepting where I am on my healing journey today
a physical Kindness to Myself: I added some pureed apple to my lunchtime sauerkraut, makes it more palatable to me.

atm I'm helping myself with this topic by thinking what steps I would take with my overwhelmed ICs. What would little Blueberries have needed and still need today? One is: help keeping room clean and tidy and especially help with it before it got / gets out of control. Needless to say that applies to my whole apartment these days. To be kind to myself could entail keeping my ICs in mind and cleaning and tidying bit by bit. Now I remember I did clear a part of a floor today!

Blueberry · March 01, 2020, 02:41:25 PM

1. Allowing myself to sleep in and then just staying in bed nice and warm under the blankets. I do have a cold so it felt the most beneficial thing anyway.

2. Packing my hotwater bottle to take up to the farm with me. And I'm only going up if they remember to collect me by car on their way home. Self-care

Hope67 · March 01, 2020, 03:33:05 PM

Hi Blueberry - I really appreciate your thread of one act of kindness - it is really lovely. Glad you allowed yourself to sleep in and stayed in bed in the warmth. As you know, I have a cold too, and I think I'm going to have a sleep now as well.

to you.
Hope

Blueberry · March 02, 2020, 02:24:43 PM

Today at the farm I took a break when I needed it and actually went back to bed and slept for 30 mins. Normally I would have pushed through the remaining 20-25 mins work. But not today.

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Hope, I read you had a cold. I hope you're managing to get enough rest and to stay warm

Kizzie · March 02, 2020, 05:48:58 PM

Decided to be open and honest with a member on the board who no matter what members suggest to help the mbr says why it won't work AND is actually getting a bit insulting.

I hate seeing genuinely caring members jump through hoops trying to figure out how to help/support someone who is either a troll or has issues that aren't CPTSD related. Waste of our precious time and energy.

I said what I needed to, handed responsibility back to the member truthfully and authentically so I don't have a knot in my stomach all day. It's my act of kindness to myself today and it feels good.

Blueberry · March 02, 2020, 08:13:50 PM

saylor · March 02, 2020, 08:54:57 PM

Quote from: Kizzie on March 02, 2020, 05:48:58 PM
Decided to be open and honest with a member on the board who no matter what members suggest to help the mbr says why it won't work AND is actually getting a bit insulting.

I hate seeing genuinely caring members jump through hoops trying to figure out how to help/support someone who is either a troll or has issues that aren't CPTSD related. Waste of our precious time and energy.

I said what I needed to, handed responsibility back to the member truthfully and authentically so I don't have a knot in my stomach all day. It's my act of kindness to myself today and it feels good.

Kizzie, you always handle things with such grace. I really admire that

Blueberry · March 03, 2020, 03:25:15 PM

I went into the garden for a while to do some post-storm clean-up. I do have a bit of a cold and/or the usual FOO-conflict related sore throat but I thought being out on a mild day doing something constructive would be both helpful and healthy. Fresh air is good in my state. It did me good. I didn't really even notice my sore throat when I was out there. It's not a sore throat typical of a cold anyway. So I think it was kind to myself to 1) allow it and 2) actually get my act together and go down