Struggling and surrounded by narcissism

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Geeky Gramma

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Struggling and surrounded by narcissism
« on: July 04, 2020, 11:05:59 PM »
So grateful to have found you all here!  Thankful for the friend that told me about this group!
I am 57 years old, have been on my healing journey for a little over 2 years now, and the triggering is getting worse and worse as I get closer to recovering some repressed memories.  I am a survivor of emotional abuse and neglect, and went from two narcissistic parents into a marriage with a partner with narcissistic tendencies.  I am in a very good therapeutic relationship, but continue to struggle as I learn to place healthy boundaries, find my own voice, and to power through the pain of healing.  I have 4 grown children, all married, but the oldest is possibly a diagnosable narcissist, separated from his wife and 4 children, and not responding at ALL to therapy.  We haven't seen those 4 grandchildren in many years.  It is all so scary and painful, and I have been really struggling to hold it together.  I have been struggling with chronic illness for 30 years now, I am sure is a result of trauma injury.  I am hoping I am explaining things well, but at times I struggle to think clearly.  I am so grateful for a group of people that don't think it is strange for me to feel the way I do.  Anyone else struggling, and surrounded by narcissism?  Any advice would be well received :-)
« Last Edit: July 04, 2020, 11:49:33 PM by Geeky Gramma »

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Slim

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Re: Struggling and surrounded by narcissism
« Reply #1 on: July 05, 2020, 11:11:34 AM »
Hi Geeky Grandma

I am so happy that you have found OOTS. I is a healing place, and helps me every day.

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Three Roses

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Re: Struggling and surrounded by narcissism
« Reply #2 on: Today at 05:04:02 AM »
Hi there!  :cheer: I'm glad you found your way here!

Here's an article about boundaries that I think you'll find interesting - http://www.new-synapse.com/aps/wordpress/?p=1911

... and a link to this forum's sister site, for those who are in relationships with others who are personality disordered - https://outofthefog.website

You're going to love this forum (imo)  :hug:
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Kizzie

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Re: Struggling and surrounded by narcissism
« Reply #3 on: Today at 05:07:41 PM »
Hi and a warm welcome to OOTS Geeky Gramma  :heythere:  I grew up surrounded by NPD and have both CPTSD and health issues as a result. N abuse wasn't well known until fairly recently but now there's a lot of info about it thankfully and I feel like MH professionals and other service providers are beginning to understand more about how damaging it is physically and mentally.

There is some info here - https://cptsd.org/forum/index.php?topic=2570.0 and we also have a sister site as Three Roses has posted. Same deal as here - free, anon, lots of resources and a forum.   

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Re: Struggling and surrounded by narcissism
« Reply #4 on: Today at 05:10:28 PM »
Kizzie posted this elsewhere and I wanted to make sure you saw it - https://www.narcissisticabuserehab.com/darvo/

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Re: Struggling and surrounded by narcissism
« Reply #5 on: Today at 05:15:00 PM »
That's a great article  :thumbup:  That site has a lot of really good articles about NPD actually.  :yes: