C. - Hahaha! I LOVE the sporty black car! I have owned 6 different corvettes over the course of my life, and all were black, and all were the loves of my life. Alas! They are all gone and I am left with a Kia. Reduced circumstances. Voluntary though. Not forced.
So I have to ask, after you do the eye roll, walk way and drive away, what happens next? Do you ever reconnect? If so, how?
Ano - Have you finished grieving? If you have worked through your anger then sadness is absolutely the next step in many cases. Grieving a long complex process. I did it in one year, but it was all I did for a year, so I pushed it on fast forward. Anger cannot be sustained, and if you have worked through it is gone. I have no anger towards my Ndad anymore either. None. I really feel nothing at all towards him, except compassion.
My problem is the "legacy" he left me, which is CPTSD. And it can be triggered by any Tom, *, or Harry Narc type person. So I do relive that anger often. And will continue to do so until there are no more Narcs left in the world I guess.
But I am back to my boundary stuff again. I continue to believe that if I can set the right boundaries and enforce them, then I may not ever have another EF again. Or maybe I am just delusional. Sigh.