One thing that helped you

  • 4 Replies
  • 239 Views
*

Snookiebookie2

  • Member
  • 258
  • CPTSD is psychological and emotional injury.
    • View Profile
One thing that helped you
« on: October 03, 2020, 09:11:20 AM »
Hi guys :heythere:

I currently feel that I'm going around in circles.  I'm hitting a brick wall.  I seem to come back to the same situation: overthinking, perfectionism and shame. This causes me into dysregulation, so I'm not functioning or I resort to poor coping skills/behaviours. That causes my inner critic to go into overdrive; I make errors due to being partially disconnected/dissociated; I act weird, overshare or go into avoidance.  My body is flooded with adrenaline and cortisol. This causes more deregulation, and the spiral continues.  As, I said going round in circles. Or it's a cycle.

I just wondered what had worked for you? What helped break a cycle, when you were stuck. What was a break through for you - no matter how small.
« Last Edit: October 03, 2020, 09:13:25 AM by Snookiebookie2 »

*

Snowdrop

  • Member
  • 1263
    • View Profile
Re: One thing that helped you
« Reply #1 on: October 03, 2020, 10:41:04 AM »
For me, it was reading the book "Internal Family Systems Therapy" by Richard Schwartz and Martha Sweezy. It helped me to understand the sorts of things you describe in terms of parts, and gave me a way to help and heal those parts. I've been much better since I started putting these things into practice. Much more even and whole.

*

Pioneer

  • Member
  • 33
    • View Profile
Re: One thing that helped you
« Reply #2 on: October 06, 2020, 02:28:03 AM »
Hi  :wave: That's a really good question. The cycle you mentioned sounds all too familiar to me - I just hit a downward cycle myself and I think I am just barely climbing out of the heap after hitting "the wall" you mentioned. I wish I had more to offer, but I want you to know that I hear you and you're not alone. As I was thinking about how to offer a helpful answer, I realized that just writing out my feelings is something that helps me to break the cycle. Just acknowledging that there is a spiral struggle and communicating to a listening ear seems like an important starting point to breaking it.
« Last Edit: October 06, 2020, 04:32:00 AM by Pioneer »

*

Gromit

  • Member
  • 297
    • View Profile
Re: One thing that helped you
« Reply #3 on: October 06, 2020, 06:59:05 PM »
I was doing a course last year with a practice diary. It was yoga and included alternate nostril breathing. After regularly practising I noticed a change, more glimpses of feeling ‘normal’. Stuff happened and I stopped but a person recently shared with me a practice that her T had recommended. It was a breathing practice, not the same one, based on breathing in for 4, holding for 7, breathing out for 8. There was a YouTube video too. My breathing has improved, I start to get short of breath with anxiety. This week I stopped as I had a cold and lo, the breathing problems returned so I am now trying to practice both practices.

It does not change anything externally, but it changes something internally and cannot do any harm. Alternate nostril breathing does not have to involve holding or counting if that is an issue.

It is just a suggestion to help pause.

G

*

woodsgnome

  • Member
  • 1823
  • I did not wish to live what was not life
    • View Profile
Re: One thing that helped you
« Reply #4 on: October 08, 2020, 01:20:38 AM »
My recovery trail is littered with some ups, many downs, lots of unknowns, and ... ? I guess that's the attitude I try to stay with -- some call it 'living the questions'. Meaning -- many of the most significant turns I've been able to make while dealing with c-ptsd has involved keeping an open attitude, or even invitation, to allow surprises as I find ways to move forward.

Why? Don't I fear change? I sure do, but ... I've experienced some real changes totally by surprise, including a couple that I was sure weren't going to work out or be good for me. A couple of these could be considered shocking given the changes that resulted.


So -- just stay open and keep on trying as well as we can -- one never  knows where something positive might come from. It might not even be perfect; might even turn out much better than that!

 :hug:

« Last Edit: October 08, 2020, 01:23:55 AM by woodsgnome »