Songs that connect us to our feelings / trauma

[Bermuda]

I'm not huge into music, but I felt like dedicating a song to OOTS. So, this one is for you.

We met one day when I thought I was an alien
I told you to get a costume and dance with me like an alien
You told me that you were not quite a good dancer
I told you that I think it doesn't matter
We would just look dumber than we think we were
Then you looked at me as if I was a freak
But you said you like freaky people
So I thought you might like me a little bit
We met one day when I thought I was an alien
I told you to get a costume and dance with me like an alien
And you did
And you did

[Kizzie]

This one is really different Bermuda but I (think I) get it. Non-survivors meeting us where we're at perhaps?

[Armee]

To me the song lyrics Bermuda posted speak to that feeling that we are so different that it feels like we are almost aliens from another planet, and how it feels to finally find this group here where we can be ourselves and be understood so easily.

[Kizzie]

Well now that's true isn't it?!    

[colliegrace]

I relate to this song a lot

[Kizzie]

I think a lot of us (survivors) lock the windows and bolt the doors to us, out authentic selves that is. Another good pick Collie, tks.

[colliegrace]

I have a lot of songs actually. It's part of how I process things I think

[Papa Coco]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YM1OzLKcBY8


This is the song I want played at my funeral. It sums up my life better than any I've ever heard. The chorus, "Dream, dream, dream all your time away." That's me.

I'd never heard of Joseph Arthur before. I heard this song being played on an episode of "House" on TV. The power of the internet helped me identify and download it into my Apple Music library. It rapidly became the best song I've ever connected to.

I'm not religious but I'm spiritually minded. To me, the reference here to "When will Jesus find us here?" is really talking about when each of us will pass through the door between heaven and earth. Which is something I think about all the time.



Could We Survive, by Joseph Arthur.


Hallelujah, stop and stare
When will Jesus find us here?
Could we survive?

How can you pretend to know
Who you are or where you'll go
When you just get by?

Hm, dream, dream all the time away
Hm, dream, dream all your time away
Oh

My father's mother sings this song
My mother's father's gone beyond
The clouds, the rain

Let him protect me from above
I can feel that tender love
When I'm in pain

Hm, dream, dream all the time away
Hm, dream, dream all your time away
Oh

[Armee]

Beautiful

[Kizzie]

Lovely song Jim     

I always loved this song and it kept me focused on breaking the cycle when raising our son.  It's by The Rankins and is called "We Rise Again" - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4C5IoSnPEIY.  It's actually about the rise and fall of Cape Breton economically as it has always had some rough times, but it spoke to me about parenting and the impact we have on our children, that how we parent goes on after we pass down throughout the generations. 

When the waves roll on over the waters
And the ocean cries
We look to our sons and daughters
To explain our lives
As if a child could tell us why
That as sure as the sunrise
As sure as the sea
As sure as the wind in the trees
We rise again in the faces
Of our children
We rise again in the voices of our song
We rise again in the waves out on the ocean
And then we rise again
When the light goes dark with the forces of creation
Across a stormy sky
We look to reincarnation to explain our lives
As if a child could tell us why
That as sure as the sunrise
As sure as the sea
As sure as the wind in the trees
We rise again in the faces
Of our children
We rise again in the voices of our song
We rise again in the waves out on the ocean
And then we rise again
We rise again in the faces
Of our children
We rise again in the voices of our song
We rise again in the waves out on the ocean
And then we rise again

[cyberJudas]

I think the song I associate the most with my trauma is Waltz #2 by Elliott Smith. It has for years now, succinctly and viscerally reflected exactly how I feel about my mother.

"I'm never gonna know you now
But I'm gonna love you anyhow"

That's how I feel about my mother now. I will never fully know her or trust her again. She has ruined that by her own decisions. But I can still love her despite that, just not in the way a child usually would.

[Kizzie]

 

[Bermuda]

Feeling a bit triggered, a bit nostalgic... I was looking, to see who had died, who is no longer around, and where the bad people are, as I do sometimes. It hit me, that I don't remember people's names anymore, I'm not sure I would recognise them in front of me. One of my brothers looks like my father now, I saw his linkedin. This song started playing in my mind. When I think about my time hiding in a grassy field, I think of this song.

Emmy The Great - City Song

The city called me, so I came
It isn't mine to question what it said
I sleep until the point when I'm awake
I walk until there's nothing left to tread

And everyone was looking for answer
And everyone was waiting for a break
I came and I was bored of it soon after
But I had nowhere to go, and so I stayed
I dreamed a lifetime of this place
It seemed an awful thing to waste

Oh, the morning fills my mouth up with decay
But I like it, it reminds me how you taste
Sometimes I feel you rising up behind me like the wind
But I still try to look away

And what will you look like when you're old?
What will I do if I don't know you?
I guess that I decided not to ask the day I took the road
Down to the city as it called
Sun making silhouettes of gauze
I don't remember you at all

So the city called me and I came
It isn't mine to question why
Sometimes the clouds will part ahead, I hear your name
It's like a choir in the sky

And what will you look like when you're old?
What will I do if I don't know you?
I guess that I decided not to ask the day I took the road
Down to the city as it called
Sun making silhouettes of gauze
I don't remember you at all

They pulled a human from my waist
It had your mouth, it had your face
I would have kept it if I'd stayed

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fIUdz1lUK6I

[Armee]

Wow its like that song was written for you.

[JRose]

This is how I feel sometimes, I just need permission to FEEL