Not Alone: 2022

[Snowdrop]

I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time, Not Alone. Is there anything that can bring you comfort? I have a soft blanket to put round your shoulders if that helps.

[Blueberry]

Sending    and care for your feelings of overwhelm and defeat.

I'm having a hard time. I went through the Christmas ornaments, setting aside the ones that belong to my H. Lots of memories associated with ornaments. Feel the grief. 

To me that sounds a bit like the problems I am having atm sorting thru things, except I'm running away from feeling much. You're going thru a lot and feeling the emotions. You're brave to be doing that. I'm standing with you in your grief.

[Not Alone]

I have a soft blanket over me right now, Snowdrop. Imagining you covering me brings comfort.

Blueberry, I appreciate you standing with me.

I had a nice day with my daughter. Now I'm feeling the anxiety creep up. I'm trying to stay in the now, but it is really hard.

[Bach]

Not Alone, I just wanted you to know that I'm here and thinking of you 

[Armee]

 

[sanmagic7]

 

[Snowdrop]

I'm there with you, Not Alone. 

[CactusFlower]

Gentle hugs, notalone. we're here with you.

[Not Alone]

Bach, Armee, San, Snowdrop, CactusFlower, and ALL,
Your support encourages me and helps me to feel not alone.

[Armee]

 

You are not alone. Your marriage is lonely but you will still have friends and your children. New traditions that maybe in the end feel less alone than the traditions you have shared with an avoidant spouse. You are losing something for sure. But I just feel like the future will have more joy for you instead of less.

[rainydiary]

I appreciate you Not Alone.

[sanmagic7]

with you, notalone.  love and hugs

[Not Alone]

There have been some good changes regarding my future job position. The person with whom I currently work closely will be changing her job so now she will be on my team. She has been a supportive friend and will be a good mentor for my new position. She is very aware of my weaknesses---biggest being technology----and has always been patient and helpful.

There is another change in my position. Without going into details, it will be less challenging and therefore less stressful, although still more responsibilities and stress than my current job.

I'm not feeling too good about the way I found out about that change. It was mentioned in a meeting with most of the staff and not told to me individually. I hope it was a matter of one person thinking that the other person was going to tell me. I'm going to talk to my supervisor about that on Tuesday. I am nervous about that kind of conversation, but in the past I have felt heard by her.

[Snowdrop]

I wouldn't have felt great hearing about the change in a meeting. Well done for talking to your supervisor, I think you're doing the right thing.

It sounds like good news that the person who's been a supportive friend will be on your team.

[Not Alone]

Thanks, Snowdrop.



I've been feeling the impact of living with a husband with Avoidant Personality Disorder. For the umpteenth time, I re-read an article about having a spouse who is avoidant. On the outside all looks peaceful, but I feel the void, the emptiness. I am not crazy and living with an Avoidant husband has caused me a lot of harm. I think that as time goes on and after the divorce, I might come to know more of the depth and degree of damage done to me.

I'm starting to see the damage done to my children. I feel guilt about that. I will deal with that more later.