[Kizzie]

Just starting this thread with an excellent article I came across on Twitter today. I always find my BP rises when I read well-meaning (or perhaps not?) truisms thrown out about how our suffering made us the people we are today, what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger, things only someone who hasn't gone through what we have would say.

Just Stop – The Universe did not Cause My Abuse For My Greater Good by survivor Mike McBride at Child Abuse Survivor

Spot on 

[Not Alone]

And this is where the image comes into play, because I will never accept that my abuse was anything other than some other person making the decision to abuse me. It was not about some greater purpose in my life, it was not karma, it was not a nudge from the universe, it was a criminal act conducted by another human being. End of story.

Appreciate M. McBride putting words to what I have thought and felt.

[Kizzie]

      

[Kizzie]

Survivors News and Reviews - A news and media review site for the Child Abuse Survivor community founded and managed by survivor Mike McBride.

[Kizzie]

Childhood trauma is a public health threat. Our kids deserve better - In this video Dr. Nadine Burke Harris, Surgeon General of California, pediatrician & child advocate explains the science of toxic stress, why childhood trauma has lasting physical & psychological affects, & how science can be used to interrupt & heal those affected.

[marti.325]

Thank you for this website. I was really glad to read that blog. I'm finding my way around the forum, I guess. I was so frazzled and frustrated at first. I am finding it soothing, surprisingly! Didn't know. I searched and I found!

[CactusFlower]

Me too, I'm just reading everything for the first time. That was an excellent article. I've never liked the whole "Suffer to make yourself better" concept.

[Kizzie]

TW - it may be a little triggering for some who ended up having to visit or be in the custody of abusive parent as ordered by family court. 

Adding this here because it explains why children who have been abused by their father are often forced to see him by order of family court. This in response to the argument put forth about "Parental Alienation Syndrome" by father's rights groups in the late 1990s. Imagine having to see your father who abuses you and the court, the law stands behind this.  The world is completely unsafe then. 

"Punish the Children" - https://caper-beige-9sd8.squarespace.com/links. 

[Bodhi_§]

Thank you for this. It helps me a lot to know that there are other survivors  out there. I'm feeling less alone each time I visit the OOTS website. Thank you

[Kizzie]

   Bodhi, good to hear!