Support while in an EF

[rainydiary]

I'm curious for any thoughts or reactions -

When you are in an EF or in flight, fight mode, do you prefer for others to be around or to be left alone?

[Papa Coco]

Hi Rainydiary,

When I'm in EF mode I absolutely isolate myself from everyone. I've left work before because I felt attacked. I used to take long drives alone. Now I just hide myself in my house, close all curtains, and turn music up so I can't hear the outside world. I don't answer the phone or the door.

Speaking for myself, the sad thing is that when I'm in EF mode, that would be the perfect time to reach out and find a friend to help take me out of EF mode. But that's not what I do. I hide until the EF ends.

[Armee]

Like Papa Coco I also isolate I can't even speak to my husband about what is happening  But I suspect it depends on your particular history.

[rainydiary]

PC and Armee, I appreciate these perspectives.

I ask because one of the trainings I did to prepare for work was how to respond to a student experiencing what I interpreted to be a flight or fight moment.

I'm not sure if I filtered the advice through my wounds but it left me feeling off.