Working through this wound

[ednasurvivalmode]

Fear of abandonment is something I see deeply rooted in myself. In learning and observing myself, I realize that if someone shows the slightest hint of familiar behavior indicating a past experience, I go into a fear space. As I sift through all the baggage unpacked for this lesson, it occured to me that I often "give up before I start" when it comes to people. My recent experience has shown me that I can overcome these fears. They still happen and are very real to me but I'm only experiencing from my point of view and how narrow that has been. I know how to be kind and Ive learned to implement boundaries again. Now, I am struggling to open up. Ive closed myself off out of necessity because Im a recovering oversharer. Where is that middle ground? I dont think this is a question that someone else can answer for me but I hope that by posting this, you can find solace in knowing youre not alone on your quest for answers. I will try to allow myself to take comfort as well.

[Chart]

Not being alone helps. Thanks for sharing, ednasurvivalmode.
 

[ednasurvivalmode]

Thanks, Chart 

[AphoticAtramentous]

Thanks for sharing this, it is indeed a problem I think many of us face. Especially the notion of just finding the middle ground in general... battling between our fawning and fighting selves. It is a good reminder.

Regards,
Aphotic.

[Kizzie]

Thanks for sharing your experience Edna, it does help to hear how others are doing and what they are working on. Being here means you are opening up so bravo to you, it's a big step when you think about it.       

[ednasurvivalmode]

It feels good to know that others understand. Thank you for sharing, AphiticAtramentous and Kizzie.

[Kizzie]