Divorcing a PD

[lawmama]

I have been married to a PD for almost five years.   I have just began to come to grips with what has happend.

I am planning a divorce but I am very frightened about what will happen.  Nothing is safe.

I  have been threatened that if I try to divorce my spouse, she will destroy me and file a restraining order to kick me out of my own house.  Her 25 year old son lives with us.  She does not let him work, drive or do anything around the house.  He is an infant who can't even take his own medication.  She has threatened to have him beat me up. She says that he will swear to whatever she says.

My hurt pounds when I think about what I am going to go through.  I have been told to get a restraining order against her first, even though there is currently no physical abuse.   I am afraid that the order will make things worse.

I am shaking as I type this.  I am not sure what to do.