Thanks to all for responding. Rain, you could be right, as she mumbled something once about working on her mom kissing her on the lips. Shortly after that, I think many triggers entered her life--she was turning 65, wondering what she would do when she retired, how we would get along. She put a lot of stress on herself w these thoughts, then my usual stuff- forgetting something at the grocery store, rolling my eyes over her controlling OCD, didn't help.
She has PTSD and OCD dx, and sought therapy throughout her life. She might have gotten onto a plateau and couldn't go further, or just decided it was easier to sc me. All of the t we did in the last year was about how my behavior upset her and how I needed to behave according to her script so I wouldn't scare her. She has much book knowledge about behavior, but could easily dismiss her issues.
After reading Pete's book, I know I have issues but not c-PTSD, and can identify w fawn types. My mom and extended family had narc, depression, and bipolar issues, but at the end of the day, everybody loved each other. So that whatever emotional abandonment and neglect was there was made up for with loving behaviors.
My ex's family, was a family in name only. Her mom and dad have passed, but she has two brothers that she has LC with, because they are so messed up, they don't communicate well.