Crossing A Line?

[IFeelSoAlone]

So as some of you may have seen in other locations on this forum, I have REALLY been struggling lately.  I thought that I had one friend that I could rely on, but now that some things have happened I am not sure where to go or what to do about it.  It all seemed to start to crumble last Tuesday, and I was hanging out with my friend.  After my therapy session my head was in a really bad spot and I couldn't get out of it.  It has been as if I am just trapped inside my mind and I can't get myself to go elsewhere. Well I got super depressed that night and my friend thought that I was suicidal, and let me tell you straight up I WAS NOT.  She took it upon herself to stay up all night to keep an eye on me, and though I appreciated it, it was not necessary to do so.  Getting up the next morning she was still super terrified for me still. Yes my head was still in a very bad place but I was in no danger of killing myself.  She was suppose to go somewhere with me but she thought that us being in the car together for the drive was not a good idea.  So she told me to take her car and just drive myself.  I was livid that she thought I was a danger to myself and still let me get behind the wheel of a car and drive alone.  I was at that point a danger to myself (wanted to hurt, NOT die), and I thought that it was an unwise choice for her to make, because at that very moment I was not in any right mind to think if I should be driving or not. The next day she said she thought I was mad at her and I said no, not mad, hurt.  Her response was "Well, it's okay cuz you hurt me too".  I made the choice then to give the two of us space so I can work on myself.

Yesterday morning I get a call from my Therapist asking me if I was ok, because that friend called her at 1:30am and told her that I was trying to kill myself ( I WASN'T).  I am still very angry and upset and  feel betrayed\ because I feel like she crossed a line.  My husband was home with me, he knew what mental state have been in (yes still am) and he was wise enough to not leave me alone.  When she called my T I was ASLEEP!  Getting a call from my T was a huge shock and because of it I am on kind of a watch of sorts.  She keeps checking in on me and if I do not respond she is going to call my husband.

The point of this long post (sorry) is to get advice on what my friend did.   As I said I feel very betrayed, she took my pain and struggles and made it about her.  I am just trying to figure out if I am just in my reaction, or if I am just looking at it wrong.  I would like other points of view
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[Dutch Uncle]

The point of this long post (sorry) is to get advice on what my friend did.   As I said I feel very betrayed, she took my pain and struggles and made it about her.  I am just trying to figure out if I am just in my reaction, or if I am just looking at it wrong.  I would like other points of view

I can't say anything on what your friend did.
I do get the idea though, that she truly is caring for you.
That doesn't mean you should not be upset. Too much 'care' can be stifling, and can make you feel being 'controlled'.

So I'd say: for you she crossed a line. Great. That is what it is for you. All valid. No need to justify it in any shape or form.
And you don't have to take any (further) action. There's always an option to let it rest for a while.

So, you're on a watch list. No problem. I've worked in police-states (real ones) and I knew as a foreigner I was under constant surveillance. It could be anybody. Probably it would be more then one who was watching me. I didn't care. I did not do anything wrong, was not planning on doing anything wrong, so they could watch all they wanted. In a way it was even comforting: anybody who would want to 'do bad' to me would probably be sniffed out by the snitches before they could get to me  . (That is a bit of brain-gymnastics, but it worked.)
You are not suicidal, so let anybody see that. Just be yourself when they check on you, they will see too that there is no threat/danger. You most probably don't even have to make an effort "to show them".

The car episode and the call to the T are silly. I understand you are upset about it. That's OK.

Possibly your friend is a bit out of her depth at the moment, and scared herself.
Perhaps you could ease her mind by telling her you appreciate her caring, but that you are in the good care of your T and husband, and she can have trust you are being attended to sufficiently, by professionals even.
Or you could tell her to buzz off, but I get the impression you don't want to lose this friend. Even with these 'shortcomings'.
And probably there is a whole range of options in between those two.

I hope things will calm down,

[Dyess]

I see a person that cares for you deeply but doesn't know exactly how to handle the situation. Is she wrong for not knowing? Is she wrong for caring so much? Is she wrong for being scared? I've been in a similar situation with a friend and at that point there really is no right answer because the situation is so volatile and so you do the best you can. If she had left and you had done something to yourself she would have that to live with. If she had left would have felt abandoned by her? You have to understand that something in the conversations made her feel this way. It's not making it about her, she could have easily removed her self from the situation. But she cared enough about you to stay. That's a good friend and you two need to talk this out and let each side be heard before this friend does step out of your life because she can't handle seeing you hurt like this and not being able to help you without you being mad at her.
This is just my opinion and from my own experiences. If you want this person to stay in your life then talk this out calmly with her.
Good luck and I'm glad you are otherwise okay.

[mourningdove]

So if I understand correctly, your friend called YOUR therapist in the middle of the night and said you were trying to kill yourself while you were at home sleeping with your husband? Yes, that is crossing a line. As if that weren't enough, the comment she made about you "hurting her too" seems very creepy and disturbing under the circumstances. I can definitely see why you might feel that she took your pain and made it all about her. I think you are probably wise to take some distance.