Thank you both very much for your welcome.
Kizzie - My mother died 2 years ago and no she didn't realise what she had done unfortunately. She kept up the lies about my father until the end and blamed him entirely him for the ills of the FOO. Over the years she had promoted herself to leader of a therapy type cult where "all men are abusers" and women are victims. Not nice. I cannot verify anything about her views on Alice Miller but the author was greatly revered by TherapistMom and her acolytes, along with the authors of "A Courage to Heal" One thing she did admit on her deathbed was that her own mother (my grandmother) had treated her very badly and this was the first time I had heard this (I was not there but heard later). Deep down I had guessed this but had never been able to ask her about her own mother.
From my reading of the information on this site I believe I have suffered from cptsd from birth. It came to my notice starkly though when I was retraumatised during therapy 18 months ago. A friend pointed me in the direction of Pete Walker and I found myself described, the therapist also, in his book, which was rather a shock. So I have worked backwards really! It took me a good year to recover from the horrible experience with the therapist. I hope I have not triggered anyone here. This site is a wonderful resource for me, and maybe others who fear therapists.
Dutch Uncle - many apologies for making you feel uncomfortable, it was silly of me, I read your comments on the post about Alice Miller and TherapistMom as a term just jumped out and nicely summed up my mother. I did not mean to make you feel awkward. It is unnerving but also a relief to find there are others out there.
