Survivor526,
I have never heard that (you're comparing your insides to someone else's outsides), but I like it.
And you are right. When I put another person in my place I don't feel they are inferior to her. In fact I think the opposite, they are such a strong person to be sitting with her. I have an appointment today and I will try to keep this in mind.
Also, I do really like my therapist. She doesn't act superior and doesn't look down on me. I am the one who looks down on me. She is warm and compassionate. She is also a very balanced person. One thing that I think leads to my feeling on inferiority is she projects such confidence. Sometimes I think it is hard for me to distinguish confidence from being superior. Perhaps there is jealousy going on as well. Somehow I seem to dismiss all my accomplishments and focus on hers.
She does bring in her life sometimes, I think to model behavior. She sometimes talks about the equal relationship between her and her husband. I believe she does this because my ex husband was so controlling, there was nothing equal there. I think she tries to show me how it can be. I need to not think of how she chose better than I did, and take the lesson at hand.
Thank you all, I'm working on it. I don't think this is something that will resolve overnight. It is something I need to keep reminding myself.