Boundaries and relationship conflict...

[LaurelLeaves]

(Where to begin...
and how much to say...  that's always a problem with me.)

I suppose I set a boundary, but I don't know how it will turn out.  I told my husband that it stresses me out to be in the closet at our very affirming church.  I want to be out, or not go at all.  Ordinarily I wouldn't tell him, and I don't know how he will react to it... I told him in an email.  He wants me to be in the closet because, according to him, he could be fired if I come out.

I suppose it is progress that I'm setting boundaries...
But I'm scared.

Simply saying, "But I'm scared", is progress for me. 

[sanmagic7]

progress is progress, and i applaud yours. 

i can't really relate to what you're going through, but i admire your courage in the face of it.  and, it's ok to be scared.  this is very scary stuff at times.

[LaurelLeaves]

it's ok to be scared.  this is very scary stuff at times.

thankyou 

[sanmagic7]

and a big  back atcha!

[LaurelLeaves]

Well... he came home, wasn't in a bad mood, and didn't yell at me.  I was bracing myself the whole day for him to yell at me, but it didn't happen. 

Of course he hasn't responded to which one he choses.  That's typical for him.  I'll probably find out on Sunday... he'll probably just leave without me without saying a word.