How many people do you know?

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Sandstone

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How many people do you know?
« on: October 23, 2016, 03:37:05 PM »
I was reading a post here the other day and it made me curious.
How many, if any, other people irl do you know with cptsd?

Iv often looked at others and their behaviours etc and wonder what their childhoods were like.

I do feel im different from a lot of others around me. I cant manage to do the things they can (socialising etc)

Are we few and far between or are there lots just undiagnosed i wonder.
Id say my ubpdm and unpdd probably have it and my brother.

I hope im making sense cos i never seem to be able to post what i mean in my head properly
« Last Edit: October 23, 2016, 03:39:56 PM by Sandstone »

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Sandstone

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Re: How many people do you know?
« Reply #1 on: October 23, 2016, 03:38:49 PM »
Just re read it and it does make sense i think   :cheer:

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movementforthebetter

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Re: How many people do you know?
« Reply #2 on: October 23, 2016, 03:50:17 PM »
My FOO is an undiagnosed cptsd spiderweb. I know of nobody outside my FOO, though. I feel very alien when I think about it. I would actually really like to meet another, sometime, but not in a group for the purpose... Just another person living life.

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Re: How many people do you know?
« Reply #3 on: October 23, 2016, 08:58:27 PM »
I can think of a few people I know who have the background and show symptoms. I've tried talking to them but they don't seem to see the significance. One of them even gave me the "get over it, it's in the past" speech.

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Re: How many people do you know?
« Reply #4 on: October 23, 2016, 11:15:32 PM »

I am sure my sister is undiagnosed.  Other than her, how many people are in this forum?  This is where I go to not feel alone.  Also, each and every person who posts here are far healthier than her.  "Just forgot about it, it never happened" doesn't get her very far.


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woodsgnome

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Re: How many people do you know?
« Reply #5 on: October 24, 2016, 03:09:41 AM »
First, Sandstone, I share your fear of coming across as fully as we'd like. It's challenging to express these things adequately using words only. Still it's all we have here, and I'm grateful to have at least that outlet.

Regarding others with cptsd, I surmise there'd be many, of varying degrees relative to where they'd land within the diagnostic models. That said, I knew of someone a couple years back who seemed obviously very affected by cptsd symptoms, exhibiting--and admitting--all of Pete Walker's descriptions regarding the fight type of response; being a freeze myself, suffice to say it wasn't easy communicating/sharing much in the way of coping skills. When we'd discuss it at all, she'd just relay how she realized it made her incredibly feisty and left it at that. I could tell she really was crying out for help, but on the flip side she seemed resistant at wanting to fully follow through. Given my own freeze traits, and her trend to narcissistic behaviours, any sort of mutuality kind of fizzled.

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Re: How many people do you know?
« Reply #6 on: October 24, 2016, 04:04:09 PM »
Undiagnosed, but obviously SOME issues influencing current behaviors ~

Not counting myself or any of my family-of-origin:

** My husband - undiagnosed, agrees after reading about cPTSD that he qualifies.
** My best friend in this state - undiagnosed, I think this is part of why we bonded. We both share a dark sense of humor with lots of sarcasm. I've met her entire FOO and understand why cPTSD may be part of it.
** Of my co-workers: 5 show symptoms and from what I've learned about their lives, certainly are likely to have been forced into survivor status.

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Re: How many people do you know?
« Reply #7 on: November 15, 2016, 08:43:15 PM »
Hi sandstone I know 2 friends with child trauma ... and I know some others in recovery .. I seem to be able to 'tell' if someone had a bad childhood now

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Sandstone

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Re: How many people do you know?
« Reply #8 on: November 18, 2016, 04:50:47 PM »
Sorry for my late reply and thank you all for your input.
I think i can tell when someone's had a bad childhood too. There seems to be common themes for a better word.

I look around and wonder how prevalent it is. I think my parents had problems in childhood and one or two of my exes.
I also think if i try to bring it up to others, they wouldn't want to know.
It is a very complex thing. Thanks guys xx


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Re: How many people do you know?
« Reply #9 on: November 22, 2016, 02:54:34 PM »
I am very open... For anyone we see regularly, they probably know something. So many things lead me to want to talk about trauma-related stuff during regular conversation, and I don't care what people think of me so I don't bother to censor myself. It has mostly worked out, though I did get let go from a job because of it (which was arguably good - it allowed me to find a job that is understanding.) All friends and S/O's know.

EDIT: I misread. How many people do I know with CPTSD? I feel like it's a lot of people, but most are undiagnosed. I think child abuse is something society tries to smooth over, and confuse people on whether or not they really experienced something "big" like that. There are certain people that seem more "real" to me, and those people are coincidentally either other victims or predators.
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