Another post by me, the journey continues. I've spoken of my sister and her NPD and Malignant actions. She is back to her hoovering techniques, as it often happens this time of the year. And she doesn't respect my no contact with her, though it has now been six years. It doesn't help that she lives across the road from me in the house she conned her way into. Her living so close is a big problem for me. I try to deal with it as best as I can, but I find I just stay out of site of my sister. That does not work for me, but it saves me from stress.
I have noticed that when I go outside to that side of the property, my sister suddenly "appears". I get dirty looks, and other gestures. I turn around and go back into my house. The emails and phone messages still happen from her. I ignore them. But whenever I go to that side of the property, it is amazing how my sister "suddenly appears". Years ago I would try to talk to her, and that was no good. I would be blamed for everything, told how terrible I am, and it always ends with my sister yelling at me "You killed Mom!" My mother actually was injured because of my sister's actions. I wasn't there to protect my mother at the time. My mother's injuries eventually led to her rapid decline, and I was with my mother nearly that whole time afterwards helping her. All at the cost of my health and my own well being. I'd help my mother again, I miss her.
I was outside yesterday, going to pickup my garbage can after the pickup for it happened. I choose a time to avoid my sister, I was careful and walked through my orchard to go get the can. Then my sister was standing there staring at me from her porch. I noticed that she now had an open view from that house looking directly up to my place. Sadly, my head nearly exploded and I turned around and went back to my house. I can't explain the feeling, but that's what I did. Doctor's told me to avoid my sister for my own health, yet I feel like a coward in these feelings. In the past, after being berated by my sister, and I've stood my ground, my sister threatens me with law suits. When my mother was alive, my mother would stand up and say, "Just try it, you're crazy" to my sister. Then my Mom would add, "You're the one that should be in jail." My Mom was a sparkplug and well loved. Though my sister would call my mother, "The Evil Witch".
I'm trying to find a solution, and its getting better. But this seems like more bullying by my sister in regard to myself. I look for escape when seeing my sister, and if I engage her, I am threatened with a lawsuit by her. She and her kids take everything that's not tied down, and I've been told to my face that everything I have, that I have worked for and paid for, is her children's legacy. I have no kids or exes of my own. It is amazing how the sight of my sister cascades into these debilitating feelings within me.
AncientSoul