Value in Sharing. (Split)

[Eyessoblue]

Thank you sanmagic and candid. I've only had 1 meeting with her and I must admit I did feel she was quite controlling, I felt I was basically told that if I didn't do EMDR then nothing else would work for me, so I felt I had no alternative. Trouble is I'm such a negative thinker anyway so naturally I've been looking for every negative report or evidence of EMDR not working therefore I have convinced myself already it's not the right way to go, yet I feel I don't know what else to do, she explained that 1-1 counselling wasn't the way forward as it leaves me in too much of an emotional mess which is when I self harm, she said EMDR wouldn't have that effect on me which I did like the sound of and also she said I don't have to talk about everything which I do find difficult. I will have my appointment with her in a couple of weeks and see how I feel then I think and if it still doesn't feel right then I will have to say so.
Candid- I will keep you informed on what is happening, thank you both.

[Blueberry]

she explained that 1-1 counselling wasn't the way forward as it leaves me in too much of an emotional mess which is when I self harm

If 1-1 counselling with her is leaving you in an emotional mess, I'd say that has to do with her. She's probably triggering you in some way, i.e. by being controlling, by not really hearing you, by not leaving you options, or by forcing you to go too fast. I've been to a lot of therapists, counsellors and psycho-docs over the years, and there has only been one after whose appointments I regularly self-harmed, a psychiatrist who had a good reputation as trauma-specialist. In retrospect I imagine just for PTSD and not complex-PTSD. The last straw was when this psychiatrist told me that since I was neither employed at the time nor in a (romantic) relationship with anybody, nor looking for either of these two, then I was untreatable. That triggered me very badly and my GP suggested I stop going, which I did. By that time, I was taking the meds I'm still on, so I didn't need a psychiatrist any more.
Good luck to you, I realise it's not so easy in the UK to change therapists. But please know that you're not at fault! EMDR may well be the way to go, but I doubt it is with this therapist. 

[Candid]

I felt I was basically told that if I didn't do EMDR then nothing else would work for me, so I felt I had no alternative.

No therapist should ever make this claim, about any kind of therapy. We are all unique, and what works for one won't work for others.

This is about her 100 per cent success rate again. If her clients aren't fixed, it's because they didn't do it right. And one thing most CPTSD clients have in common is a need to be seen as 'good' and 'compliant' by authority figures. We grew up blaming ourselves for everything, and we're only too quick to allow a therapist to do the same.

she explained that 1-1 counselling wasn't the way forward as it leaves me in too much of an emotional mess which is when I self harm, she said EMDR wouldn't have that effect on me which I did like the sound of...

Sounds as though she's attempting hypnosis, getting you to believe what she wants you to believe. At a guess, that's why she doesn't want you looking at forums and getting outside opinions.

If you could trust her implicitly, this might work for you. I'm a great believer in what we tell ourselves about ourselves is always true. Life's a head game, really. However, you're already having plenty of doubts.

I'll be following with interest, but if you want this to work you might consider staying off the forum and believing everything she tells you.