kudos to OOTS; reduce time online

[Blueberry]

I'm not quite sure where to put this post, but since it's about an idea I have for my own recovery at the moment, I'm putting it in here.

OOTS - you guys are great! I've learned so much reading on here almost daily for a month. I can tell that being in this community is helping me along in therapy too. You are also so supportive. I think that's beginning to help me with some more self-compassion. I learn a lot commenting too, because my comments to you all tell me something about me too. Often it's something that's not even clear to me until I've formulated it for you.

However, I think I'm spending too much time on here. There are so many things IRL that I ought to be getting on with, from doing the taxes to filling in other important forms to making my rat's nest of a bed into a properly made bed that IRL I feel  with all this stuff to do. Best get on with it. Bit by bit. Otherwise the falling-bricks effect will backfire on me.

So I'm declaring this here because that will help me stick to it. This doesn't mean I won't be on here at all, but I aim to spend less time here for a while, less time reading other posts and commenting on them. Maybe being more selective, just reading and commenting where that's really my deal or really my topic at the moment. 

[Three Roses]

 

Self-care and balance! Well done, you!

[Kizzie]

       Kudos BB!   

[sanmagic7]

your input is invaluable, blueberry, but so is your real life.  i'm glad you're setting boundaries for you.  well done.

[Blueberry]

Thank you, Kizzie, Three Roses and sanmagic!

I'm back online tonight, but that's OK. I had some things I wanted to post. It's all about balance. (Thx 3Roses).

What I realised though is: Starting a Journal first was fine,  but then reading and commenting on other people's posts instead of posting about my bad dream was the flight reaction mentioned in the General Intro to EFs: busyness. I think that's a bit of what I was doing in the first month on this forum. Yes, I learned a lot but sometimes I should've been getting on with RL a bit more. Realisations are useful (including this one), they're part of recovery. I did get quite a bit done in the last couple of days of things that have been waiting around to be done for weeks or even months  .

[Candid]

reading and commenting on other people's posts instead of posting about my bad dream was the flight reaction mentioned in the General Intro to EFs: busyness.

Yes, time spent posting here can, like housework, expand to fit the time available.  I'm aware I come here to avoid thinking about my present living conditions, instead of trying to do something about it.

Much as I appreciate your posts, I agree that balance is important.

[Blueberry]

Yay! I did a whole pile of spring-cleaning in my bedroom today and turned that rat's nest into a properly made bed.           Since doing housework usually exhausts me beyond imaginable, I assume it sends me into an EF. Today was a day without housework exhaustion, so good to make use of it. However since I know what housework can do to me, I tend to put it off. Before housework I usually have to tidy up and put things away, because these 2 activities are often very difficult for me. I get really confused, mostly. There are days like today when I can tidy up and decide where to put things without getting all brain-foggy and confused, but these days don't come that often. So I'm feeling pretty good now about getting all that done.

I've also at least got a start on the taxes and have been filling in various of those forms I need to fill in, as well as other odd jobs I didn't mention in my original post.

[Kizzie]

Yay Blueberry!     Slow and steady does it as the tortoise showed the hare   

[sanmagic7]

you go, blueberry, whether it's forging ahead on a project, or taking a step back to regroup.  it's all important, all part of balance.  i'm still learning, that's for sure. 

[Candid]

Slow and steady does it as the tortoise showed the hare 

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[Blueberry]

Thanks Candid, it's really true!

sanmagic, thanks for that idea too. Because of lots of ideas and impulses for things to do, but not doing them, that seems to mean I need to do a bit of regrouping. That seems to be why I came back online. So off to my Journal.