You guys are AWESOME! Thank you so much for ya'lls input.
I do have a therapist, but we have been tied up for 1.5 year dealing with more pressing issues. I have healed much, but this is a rather strange aspect of myself.
As far as not getting along...no, it is due to jerry springer sorts who cannot negotiate or listen. I am a good neighbor, and I really work at it, but a lot of people have their own dysfunction. I refuse to rent expensive places, as they (to me) are a huge waste of money...this can increase odds of getting dodgy neighbors. The last place I moved out because 10 people, many who were loud alcoholics would party till 3am. The drunk granny went nuts when I asked her to keep it down.
I am also an Aspie. I have issues with having too much stuff, as it is a pain in the a$$ to clean, move, or care for. I have issues with a living space being too empty looking because I don't have much crap to fill it up. So I paint my place 11 colors (this is an artistic move to divert attention from the place looking too empty). So here in ecuador (I am a North american), they have ginormous apartments (1000 sf++), and I struggle to get something that is not too huge. It is an artistic eye thing. if it looks too empty, then I feel the same anxiety as some would looking a crooked picture on the wall.
So the root is have a weird looking place because I don't have the junk to make it look "right".
The root of being a minimalist, or having an aversion to "stuff" is that I do not want the people who have to clean up my so called "estate" when I die to suffer like I did when I have had to haul off literally tons of junk when all the old people in my family died and left so much trash to clean up.
I am young (ish). I realize I could die at any second, due to my history.
So I think the root of it is that I hate junk, because I had to clean so much junk after so many people's deaths, and this often affects my choice of living spots, because I don't want to me a mentally ill looking person with a bizarrely empty place.
Thanks in advanced. Your thought again appreciated.