Creep wants me to go back.

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songbirdrosa

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Creep wants me to go back.
« on: October 27, 2017, 09:42:26 AM »
Even though I've moved out of the place with the creepy stalker guy, I've still got my key to the place. I've been trying to organise with his son to give it directly to someone, but he just won't budge. He keeps telling me to take it back to the flat and leave it there. But I can't. Even the thought of going back to that place is utterly terrifying. I'm shaking, and when I got the most recent message, I started crying. I can't go back there. It's just too much. I don't know what I can do.  :'(

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Re: Creep wants me to go back.
« Reply #1 on: October 27, 2017, 10:41:41 AM »
Get someone else to do it. If I was there, I would.

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« Reply #2 on: October 27, 2017, 02:14:52 PM »

Apparently he doesn't want his key back.  I think your safety in a nonnegotiable.  If you really need to give it back to him you can tell the police you are afraid of him and they will return it for you.

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Re: Creep wants me to go back.
« Reply #3 on: October 27, 2017, 03:38:43 PM »
Your safety is worth more than a key! Tell him you lost it, or send him $2 to replace it, or he can pick it up at the police station, or at the apartment managers, or you'll mail it to him, but I hope you do NOT return it in person. I like Dee's idea to give it to one of the police that came to the apartment over his stalking charges, and have the police return it.

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Re: Creep wants me to go back.
« Reply #4 on: October 27, 2017, 08:40:04 PM »
Dee and Three Roses are right- great advice!!!

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Re: Creep wants me to go back.
« Reply #5 on: October 28, 2017, 02:01:51 PM »
i'm with the rest of everybody, songbird.  your safety and well-being is of primary importance.   you don't need to go anywhere near him or his place, don't need to make any kind of contact.  all you need to do is what's best for you.  big hug.

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Re: Creep wants me to go back.
« Reply #6 on: October 30, 2017, 07:15:49 PM »
Songbirdrosa, I hope you're safe and that the key issue isn't concerning you any more, that Kizzie's or Dee's suggestions worked for you.  :hug:

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songbirdrosa

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Re: Creep wants me to go back.
« Reply #7 on: November 02, 2017, 02:50:17 AM »
Thanks everyone,

I've been offline for a few days because my laptop suddenly died on the weekend. But it's all fixed now.

I ended up going there with a friend of mine. He took the key back to the flat itself while I waited at a cafe nearby. Apparently nobody was there, and it looked like it hadn't been disturbed since I'd left, so I'm not even really sure where creepy dude was, or what was going on. But hey, it's not my problem any longer!

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Re: Creep wants me to go back.
« Reply #8 on: November 02, 2017, 03:44:17 AM »

I'm glad to hear you are safe!

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Re: Creep wants me to go back.
« Reply #9 on: November 02, 2017, 12:50:08 PM »
 :yeahthat: and Good on you for finding a solution.

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Re: Creep wants me to go back.
« Reply #10 on: November 03, 2017, 01:29:28 AM »
sounds just right, songbird.  glad you're out.