Mum hit me during her post partum depression - TRIGGER WARNING CPA

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Jenny Blount

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Iíve finally pieced together troubling memories by getting my mother to talk about the time when she was ill. She told me she had to hit me to make me cry so that Iíd go to sleep.
I was two years old, she used to bash my head. I remember blood once.
I asked her about why she hit me and she said Ďit seemed to workí
She used to hit me. I would cry then she cuddled me until, in her words, ĎYou went limpí.

I canít think of anything more likely to crush a mother-daughter bond than to be hit and then held until you give up struggling.

It might account for the strong feelings of emotional suffocation Iíve always felt around my mother.


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Re: Mum hit me during her post partum depression
« Reply #1 on: June 06, 2018, 12:29:35 PM »
Oh Jenny, i'm so sorry, that's terrible! Poor Little you.  :'(  :hug: :hug: :grouphug:
That would account for pretty strong feelings around your mother, not to mention cptsd.

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Jenny Blount

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Re: Mum hit me during her post partum depression - TRIGGER WARNING CPA
« Reply #2 on: June 06, 2018, 12:43:12 PM »
The first time Iíve ever felt love and compassion for myself is now. I picture myself as a two year old and want to hold her and give her love.
I didnít have children but I want love love that little girl.

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Re: Mum hit me during her post partum depression - TRIGGER WARNING CPA
« Reply #3 on: June 06, 2018, 12:48:42 PM »
If you can imagine it, do so! I have Little Me who's a bit older maybe 3-4 yo in my arms rn. Little Jenny needed so much love and compassion, even my Little Me is nodding about that. She's even reaching her arms out as if to hug Little Jenny. So sending  :hug:  :bighug: to Little Jenny. If it's too much for her, too overwhelming, she can say 'no'. But know there is compassion from me.

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Jenny Blount

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Re: Mum hit me during her post partum depression - TRIGGER WARNING CPA
« Reply #4 on: June 06, 2018, 01:17:18 PM »
Thank you!

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Re: Mum hit me during her post partum depression - TRIGGER WARNING CPA
« Reply #5 on: June 06, 2018, 05:38:53 PM »
Jenny,
Iím so sorry for what you went through. Your feelings are valid.  Iím a mother of a 4 year old.  I love him with all my heart.  I would never treat him the way your mother treated you.  If you canít picture yourself hugging 2 year old Jenny... maybe imagine someone else you trust holding little Jenny. 

Best wishes sweetie
Deep Blue

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Jenny Blount

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Re: Mum hit me during her post partum depression - TRIGGER WARNING CPA
« Reply #6 on: June 06, 2018, 09:41:39 PM »
Thank you,
Well, at least I know now!
I found a picture of me at two and Iím doing some art work based on it. The first thing I did was change her from black and white into a beautiful gentle pink!
Jx

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Re: Mum hit me during her post partum depression - TRIGGER WARNING CPA
« Reply #7 on: June 07, 2018, 10:57:29 AM »
Your art work sounds lovely and healing  :)

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Re: Mum hit me during her post partum depression - TRIGGER WARNING CPA
« Reply #8 on: June 07, 2018, 12:37:34 PM »
Hi Jenny,

I can relate very much and am just showing you my love and support. Especially when you say:
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I canít think of anything more likely to crush a mother-daughter bond than to be hit and then held until you give up struggling.

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My mother also has post partum depression and used to hit me too. She said it was to "make me strong". and that because i'm an only child, i "must not be spoiled". she subjected me to physical and emotional abuse since birth. She never took care of me when i was a baby because she was scared of hurting me. ironic seeing as how she would hit me as a grew. I can recount these in detail but maybe not now because i don't want it to be too triggering.
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I use art to express myself in ways i can't verbally :) very therapeutic. I am sending you all my love, and Little Me stands with Little You in solidarity.

Happy to talk to you about this, i think we can find that we have a lot in common? ;)

Either way,
Sending you
All my love,
Roe